Hey, I’m Emilea
It’s pronounced like the normal Emily. But here’s what I used to say: “it’s pronounced Emily, but I’ll answer to anything.” And then never correct them again. Once a boss called me Amelia. And anytime I thought about correcting her, I felt this sharp twinge of nausea. I didn’t want to make her feel bad! So I just moved on. For the entire two years I worked for her.
So yeah…I’m a little familiar with anxiety and people pleasing. I’ve been there.
Overachievers and Heartbreak
Sobbing into your hands, a corset of fear pulling tighter into your ribs.
A friend just canceled weekend plans. The guy you’ve been talking to never responded to your brave ‘wanna get dinner sometime?’ text. Why does this keep happening?
You pull out your phone and try to find someone to send the understated ‘hey, I’m kinda having a hard time…’ But scrolling and scrolling. No one seems right.
As an anxious heart myself, I know the worst part of your anxiety. It’s not the tension headaches, obsessive planning, bubblings of resentment, or even the raging perfectionism.
It’s the loneliness.
The sour, hot feeling that despite working your ass off to be there for everybody…you don’t really know if anyone wants to be there for you.
Mom Friend of the Group
I’m here to tell you there is a richer life ahead. The mom-friends-of-the-group I work with are remarkably like you. Generous. Hard working. And have convinced everyone that they’re fine.
You push all the loneliness and self doubt waaay down to create this convincing persona. Only share how you’re dying inside if you plop a little “lol” on the end.
But break ups don’t care about your self discipline and busy schedule. That gut wrenching sadness goes for the jugular. And when it does, you go looking for a cure. I bet the amount of money you’ve spent on skincare, organization solutions, and diets is hefty. I know my tab in that department was shocking. (And yet, I still felt crushed by loneliness.)
You don’t need to Marie-Kondo anything.
You need a therapist who’s as radical as she is routine to connect with the real you.
Not the you that shape shifts to create harmony for everyone else. The actual you.
The one that’s a little snarky, can be downright impolite, and actually doesn’t like the restaurant your friend picked for dinner.
We’ll bring this genuineness forward to heal this pain and breathe life into all of your relationships. You’ll cultivate a life worth living (even if it doesn’t look like how your women’s small group thought it should).
It’s gonna look exactly how you need it to.
Therapy with Emilea
Okay, you’re not new to this whole therapy gig - but your last therapist didn’t have the bullshit detector that I do.
We’ll trace those knee jerk reactions back to their origin, and then reset the broken story. My audio learning course Skills Class will give you the know-how and practices to create new emotional mobility. And in session we’ll weave all this work together with space to hear and trust your intuition.
I understand why therapy hasn’t worked before.
They didn’t know how to get to the root of it. Going leaf by leaf, symptom by symptom, is one way to do therapeutic work. It’s just the long way. My blend of radically open behavior tools and intuitive story work will heal the roots of your anxiety.
And help you find your own unique path forward with a strong sense of self, spirit, and belonging.
